Do blogging and motherhood really go together?

I keep asking myself that question a lot lately.  I suppose that’s a question any working mother could ask herself but blogging is not like any other work I know.  When I used to work outside the home, for other people, I would never think of work whilst at home, it was 100% family time at home.

When people that aren’t bloggers look at my blog they would probably assume that I spend about a couple of hours a week working on it.  Oh how very wrong they would be!

They do not realise the many hours that go into designing a website and fixing all the problems that arise.

They do not realise the amount of hours that are spent networking in order to gain a readership.

They do not realise how addictive it can be to constantly be trying to improve your stats (or maybe that’s just me).

They do not realise the amount of hours that are spent taking and editing photos as well as the actual writing of posts.

Nor the amount of hours reading and replying to comments and emails.

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And all that’s just the basic blogging part, if you want to actually make any money from your blog then there’s a whole lot more work that needs doing such as organising giveaways, competitions, reviews, sponsored posts and the like, and in order to even begin to do those things you need to impress companies with your pitch and stats, the competition is intense!

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Maybe it’s not so bad to blog if you’re not interested in making money from it, if that’s the case then there’s no need to worry about your stats, you can just write a quick post while the kiddos are in bed.  Unfortunately that’s not the case for me.  I’ve made the decision to home educate my children which I love doing but it means I do not get any free time whatsoever because they’re always at home with me, also I’m not able to go out and work but I still want to be able to earn my own money.  My children are aged from 1 to 16 which means I no longer have the evenings to myself, so literally I have no time to myself.

I’m sure many ‘mummy bloggers’ blog when their children are at school or in bed but I can’t do that so this is how I manage:

  • Start at 6 am  - I start work in bed, this is the only time I have when I’m awake and the children are not, usually for about an hour or two.
  • Work between lessons – I try to keep up with all my emails and comments in brief 10 minute stretches between each of the lessons I teach so I’m not too bogged down with work in the evenings.
  • Make sure all the children are in their rooms by 9 pm – Now some of my children are old enough to stay up later than this, I still insist they are all in their rooms by 9, they can read, draw and talk quietly while I get on with writing posts, editing photos, sorting out my website etc, etc, etc as well as spending quality time with the hubster.

So there you go, I work form 6 am to 11 pm for very little money but I do it because I enjoy it.  Of course by work I mean not just blogging but also looking after 6 children, daily outings, housework, cooking, maintaining a decent relationship with my man and all the other things involved in running a household, however, blogging does take up about half the time of this in total.

The real mastermind behind this blog!

The real mastermind behind this blog!

My blog is my hobby as well as my work, it’s only 4 months old and I’m still trying to get it established, hopefully in a couple of months it won’t be quite as intense but I guess I’ll have to wait and see.  At the moment I have to set my BT home hub to turn off between 11 pm and 6 am so I can’t work during those hours or I’d never stop, also it’s not good for your pineal gland when you sleep with WiFi on but that’s a whole other topic!

Some days I feel like quitting because it’s relentlessly hard work.  I wonder what the point is and ask myself if I’d be a better mother without it but the truth is it’s my selfish creation, my release, my expression, my communication with the outside world so maybe I wouldn’t be a better mother without my blog.

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  1. It takes a while to find the right balance I found. To start with you blog a bit, then a lot, then your partner if you have one complains about all the time you are on the computer,then you tweak what you do a bit and when you do it.
    It’s way easier for me now the kids are at school as I don’t have to be sat on the pooter when they are home. Having a husband who works a couple of nights a week helps too – means I can squeeze in a few evening hours too ;)
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    • I hope my life does become more balanced soon!

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  2. WELL DONE FOR DARING TO START! And daring to believe it could become more than a hobby and even an income :-)
    I just started too and what you’ve written resonates for me too! I was thinking maybe Wifi off in the day and on in the evenings might ensure time with me kids really is ‘time with my kids’… But that’s just where I’m at right now! Off at 11pm is a great idea!! Looking at any blog admin pages after that just means I’m still dwelling on it when I want to sleep!
    - Coming to you from #Mumsnet… but I guess you’ve seen that already ;-)
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    • Blogging is a strange thing, there isn’t anyone there to teach us how to do it, we just have to make it up as we go along.

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  3. Oh Alex I could have written this almost word for word, apart from the number of kids and home schooling!
    I seem to be working none stop as my blog is only 5 months old. Trying to be in a position to eventually make money. Soon to go self hosted, sorting out design, posts, pictures. It really is non stop and I am trying to set up a craft business as well.
    I keep telling myself it will calm down, but I like you are a bit addicted x
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    • To be honest with you, I think I actually love being this busy, I must do really or my life wouldn’t be as it is x :)

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  4. I wish I could offer some advice, but I’m afraid I’m with you. I’ve yet to strike that balance. The desire for my blog to do well, make an income, and that fact that I really enjoy it and am endlessly coming up with new topics to share, mean that I rarely switch off. And when I stop ‘blogging’ I’m likely to be found on social media networking anyway. At night, I go to bed, and no matter what time or how tired, I read my book – it makes me feel I’m still having some ‘me’ time. Exhausts me, but I feel smug about it ;-)Thanks for sharing with #WotW, and if you find the answer, come back & let me know!
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    • It’s great that you still manage to fit in a bit of ‘me’ time, I do keep trying to read but keep falling asleep! x

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  5. Oh, I can relate to this! I still haven’t got the balance right, if anything it’s getting worse :) I need to though, I must get more sleep! #WotW

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    • I’m so glad to hear I’m not the only one! x #WotW

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  6. I think you are amazing to get so much done, and I like the way you have organised your time. I really agree with how much work goes into blogging. It can be so time-consuming! I have decided to not focus on sponsorships because they were stressing me out.
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    • I know what you mean, I often ask myself if it’s worth it, I’ll only blog as long as I enjoy it otherwise it would just be pointless.

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  7. Such a great, honest post! I can really relate to your post Alexandra! I have only just started blogging for real (took forever to get the designing sorted and then I started writing, not telling anyone and only kind of started trying to get my blog looked at by other human beings about four weeks ago), and thought it would be a nice hobby that would take a couple of hours a week… I could not have been furthest from the truth! With the children and work, it is actually quite difficult squeezing in all the hours I would like to invest in my little blog. I will be looking at your grow, that is for sure! Mel
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    • Well it’s nice to meet a fellow newbie, your blog looks really great, very professional x

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  8. Well done you. You sound very organised….I often sneak in a guilty half hour or so first thing in the morning, but apart from that try and fit in around school and my other work (from home). Monetarisation is a whole different ball game and TBH not quite sure I see where I am heading….news to me about the issues of sleeping with the BT Hub on though…need to read more!
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    • I’m really not that organised! As for the WiFi, it’s bad for our pineal gland and bad for the bees too, you should read about it, it’s an extremely interesting subject although slightly horrifying too!

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